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peoplemagazine:

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Ten months ago I met who I believed was a wonderful person.  He was all I hoped he was.  He was kind, funny, and he gave me hope.  And five months later, everything came crashing down.  When I first met Owen grandkanye he was brought into a tinychat.  He was sweet, but never got on cam or microphone at first.  After many days and endless persuading by friends he finally got on his microphone and talked with us.  Nothing seemed weird, it was assumed that since he didn’t know us it was nerve wracking. After a few weeks we began texting, skyping (microphone/screen-share and I sometimes on cam) and just talking all the time.  After a while it became like a real relationship.  However, he knew that I would not commit to him until he got on cam.  When he first got his iPhone he mistakenly put his real email address (iana.____) instead of owen.____.   I was suspicious and confronted him about it.  He told me that it was his mother’s name and since it was his mom’s old phone, it still had her email.  And since I had no reason not to trust him I let it go.  Then later on a few months later after constant pressuring to him to cam me he has still refused.  At this point, I’ve begun to think that he isn’t who he says he is.  I used that email address to find a fb of a 20 y/o girl from the same place he lives, same school he goes to, and the same name as the e-mail.  I asked him about it and he pretty much says I’m crazy and then either deletes it, or blocks me (idk what, but it’s gone and I couldn’t find it again).  Although, by then I’m too far invested.  I really, really cared for him and things between us were really serious.  Even though we weren’t “officially” together, we were definitely in a relationship.  Later on we do hw together and I see on the bottom of the screen the name Iana ____ and I take a screenshot.   Later on I confront him and he blows it off and tries to make me out to be crazy.  Toward the end of our relationship things get rocky. I constantly ask him to cam me, even for like 5 seconds, just to prove he’s who he says he is.  While I was on spring break I visit a tumblr user in Canada and I don’t use my phone much (fuck att’s international plan).  But while we do talk everything seems fine, we’re normal.  However, when I cross the border we start texting and he says he’s “thinking” about “us” and how I have “bad morals” and am a “bad person” and that he “cant be with me” because I’m not a good person.  Of course, I make posts about it and tbh they were unkind but he broke my heart in a million pieces in an incredibly cruel way.  He made me feel like I was the worst person in the world.  That because of how I felt that I didn’t deserve anyone or anything. Then days later I see that he’s dating Sara yongmuney.  He made a post about how relationships aren’t 70/30 theyre 50/50 and I was pissed.  I messaged him on skype about how I tried harder than anything in the relationship and that he was the one not doing shit bc he wouldn’t do the ONE thing that would keep us together (go on cam).  And then I called him out.  I told him I knew he was lying about who he was, that I KNOW he is Iana.  That if he had just been honest with me from the first thing that I wouldn’t have cared.  That I would have been there regardless.  But then he blocked me, turned my “friends” against me and talked shit about me to everyone.  I’m not a bad person, and I didn’t deserve what she did to me.  It took me months, and lots of appointments with my therapist to realize that.  All I wanted was an apology for all the rude things she said and did to me.  She tricked me, she tricked Sara, and she tricked all of you.  Catfish are slippery as fuck.  Beware of them.

peoplemagazine:

(the picture is there so this doesn’t turn into a link)

Ten months ago I met who I believed was a wonderful person.  He was all I hoped he was.  He was kind, funny, and he gave me hope.  And five months later, everything came crashing down.  When I first met Owen grandkanye he was brought into a tinychat.  He was sweet, but never got on cam or microphone at first.  After many days and endless persuading by friends he finally got on his microphone and talked with us.  Nothing seemed weird, it was assumed that since he didn’t know us it was nerve wracking. After a few weeks we began texting, skyping (microphone/screen-share and I sometimes on cam) and just talking all the time.  After a while it became like a real relationship.  However, he knew that I would not commit to him until he got on cam.  When he first got his iPhone he mistakenly put his real email address (iana.____) instead of owen.____.   I was suspicious and confronted him about it.  He told me that it was his mother’s name and since it was his mom’s old phone, it still had her email.  And since I had no reason not to trust him I let it go.  Then later on a few months later after constant pressuring to him to cam me he has still refused.  At this point, I’ve begun to think that he isn’t who he says he is.  I used that email address to find a fb of a 20 y/o girl from the same place he lives, same school he goes to, and the same name as the e-mail.  I asked him about it and he pretty much says I’m crazy and then either deletes it, or blocks me (idk what, but it’s gone and I couldn’t find it again).  Although, by then I’m too far invested.  I really, really cared for him and things between us were really serious.  Even though we weren’t “officially” together, we were definitely in a relationship.  Later on we do hw together and I see on the bottom of the screen the name Iana ____ and I take a screenshot.   Later on I confront him and he blows it off and tries to make me out to be crazy.  Toward the end of our relationship things get rocky. I constantly ask him to cam me, even for like 5 seconds, just to prove he’s who he says he is.  While I was on spring break I visit a tumblr user in Canada and I don’t use my phone much (fuck att’s international plan).  But while we do talk everything seems fine, we’re normal.  However, when I cross the border we start texting and he says he’s “thinking” about “us” and how I have “bad morals” and am a “bad person” and that he “cant be with me” because I’m not a good person.  Of course, I make posts about it and tbh they were unkind but he broke my heart in a million pieces in an incredibly cruel way.  He made me feel like I was the worst person in the world.  That because of how I felt that I didn’t deserve anyone or anything. Then days later I see that he’s dating Sara yongmuney.  He made a post about how relationships aren’t 70/30 theyre 50/50 and I was pissed.  I messaged him on skype about how I tried harder than anything in the relationship and that he was the one not doing shit bc he wouldn’t do the ONE thing that would keep us together (go on cam).  And then I called him out.  I told him I knew he was lying about who he was, that I KNOW he is Iana.  That if he had just been honest with me from the first thing that I wouldn’t have cared.  That I would have been there regardless.  But then he blocked me, turned my “friends” against me and talked shit about me to everyone.  I’m not a bad person, and I didn’t deserve what she did to me.  It took me months, and lots of appointments with my therapist to realize that.  All I wanted was an apology for all the rude things she said and did to me.  She tricked me, she tricked Sara, and she tricked all of you.  Catfish are slippery as fuck.  Beware of them.